这是所需的选择:
select t1.PLAYER_id, t1.FRIEND_ID from tablename t1inner join tablename t2 on t1.PLAYER_id = t2.FRIEND_ID and t2.PLAYER_id = t1.FRIEND_ID

这是所需的选择:
select t1.PLAYER_id, t1.FRIEND_ID from tablename t1inner join tablename t2 on t1.PLAYER_id = t2.FRIEND_ID and t2.PLAYER_id = t1.FRIEND_ID